In relationships, we tend to start with solutions and problem solving, rather than deep understanding of the other person’s needs. We have a need, and our imagination quickly offers up…
The Enneagram is a 9-type personality model. I'm not very familiar with it's history. But I have found it personally beneficial in understanding my mind, thoughts, and feelings, and those…
Self-hate. Self-loathing. Low self-esteem. Lack of confidence. Insecurity. Self-consciousness. Shame. So many words and phrases for the human experience of not really liking ourselves. Did I miss any? That was…
"In the beginner's mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert's mind there are few."Shunryu Suzuki This is one of the first lines (maybe even the first) from the…
"The wound is the place where the light enters."Rumi This simple quote is a great pointer for handling pain, struggle, and difficult times. Our thinking mind's job is to prevent…
"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best day and night to make you like everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any…
“In order to find the patient, we must look for him inside of ourselves.”Christopher Bollas I came across this quote recently in a psychotherapy textbook, and thought it worthy of…
“Things won are done, joy’s soul lies in the doing.”William Shakespeare This quote reminds me of hedonic adaptation, the phenomenon that we adapt surprisingly quickly to pleasure or pain. This…
“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”Howard Thurman I personally…
“There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”Anais Nin This is a great metaphor for…