Video version available on YouTube: https://youtu.be/58CkZ5x7Z2E The myth of less goodness One of the biggest reasons to see and understand circular causality is that it can mean the difference between…
Video version available on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Yejzl_c-GoM Circular causality blindness is more pronounced in conflicts, or “vicious cycles” than it is in harmony, or “virtuous cycles”. In a virtuous cycle, we…
This post is the text of a video essay (posted on YouTube here): https://youtu.be/HxGvwUyCMFI When we’re on the inside of a circular causal loop, it’s usually easier to see how…
This post is the text of a video essay (posted on YouTube here): https://youtu.be/lOtTya5cuA0?si=7s42r-qCddLxI6bi The spotlight and the shadow Me banging the table about the fact that we impact others…
This post is the text of a video essay (posted on YouTube here): https://youtu.be/UHXMi3rUkx4 The eight-billion butterfly effect The butterfly effect is the concept that small changes in one part…
This post is the text of a video essay (posted on YouTube here): https://youtu.be/lRnw6V9aARg Inquiries How much do others respond to us based on their own personalities, moods, and contexts,…
This post is the text of a video essay (posted on YouTube here): https://youtu.be/2qfUyFcLsTo?si=MZ01svM8HuuGUxRq Inquiries “Never take anything personally”, because “nothing is personal”. We’ve all probably heard this popular piece…
This post is the text of a video essay I've hosted on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/0cvMSEHhAlE Breakup wake ups Breakups can be especially sad when we’ve put a lot of work…
This post is the text of a video essay I've hosted on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/1nr4maTiFQE Love vs relationship I like the idea that anyone can love anyone, regardless of their…
This post is the text of a video essay I've hosted on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CsXtYOWf-e0 Introduction What leads to a nourishing intimate relationship? What makes a relationship work? It’s a…